Avoidance is understandable: anxiety is unpleasant
The treatment approaches for anxiety is called exposure therapy, in which individuals are asked to gradually confront the situations or memories that bring up fear and anxiety. Exposure therapy teaches two principles. First, the situation that has been avoided might not be as dangerous as once thought. Second, that the feelings of anxiety and fear are also not as dangerous as once thought, because there are coping strategies that can help deal with these feelings.
The difference between enjoying good results and having amazing experiences is when you transition from habit to lifestyle. That’s what happened to me when I moved from a routine job with bad managements, no good team, poisonous environment, quantity over quality, no Salary increases for 8 years, and no progress or promotion, to a job where celebrate your skill and knowledge, with a great team that focusing on quality work and patient care and give you great incentive and rewards.
But, truth is told, only when we explore something day in, day out we truly get to the nuances otherwise out of reach. They usually make the difference and enable us to reach that next level. The perfect communication and polite emails that I have got from the Manager and the Radiologist was one of the reasons that make me joining their team.
Remember that we’re constantly connected to the universal life force energy. When you start practicing positive thinking, avoid drama and negative people, stay focused and be part of a team that pull together, you enhance this connection by allowing the energy to flow freely in an optimum way. As a result, you get rid of your stress, bad work environment, anger issues, and that will in turn improve your health on all levels, and gain higher consciousness over time.
That’s why, once you have this habit in place, it’s time to integrate positive thinking, positive mind set further into your life. You do so by constantly being mindful of the flow of the universal life force energy of how can improve yourself and those around you. This means you become aware of every moment of your life, even when you walk down the street., the way you talk to people, curb your anger, respect diversity, and live the moment .
Being mindful of your connection to the universal life force energy is part of the essence of positive thinking and self improvement. It can lead to one of the most important results: understanding what you are healing. It’s also a wonderful way to start your day by enabling a healthy and balanced mindset.
Once Alfred Hitchcock got rejected from all the Producers and rich movie owners to finance his movie and script for psycho, he was stressed out and depressed but determine to do it and never gave up until his story was in the movie that led him to win an Oscar and made millions. Psycho was nominated for four Academy Awards, including Best Supporting Actress for Janet Leigh and Best Director for Hitchcock. Psycho is now considered one of Hitchcock’s best films, and is arguably his most famous work. He wasn’t afraid to show the dark side of humanity and the psychopathic ability of some people yet in dramatic and intense way.
Your attitude towards your own skills and abilities will affect how you behave under pressure and carry yourself. Those with a growth mindset – who believe that intelligence is malleable, and skills can be developed, will respond more favorably in challenging situations. In contrast, those with a fixed mindset, who believe that intelligence and abilities are unchangeable, are more likely to give up quickly when things get tough.
Positive thinking with require education and training will sharp your skill if you have the positive attitude to do so. Less attention has been paid to the attitudes that people have towards their emotions. I have found that individuals also have differing beliefs about how changeable or fixed their emotions are, and that this makes a big difference to how they respond when those feelings arise
People with a fixed mindset towards anxiety tend to see it as a fundamental part of who they are, and something over which they have no control; whereas those with a growth mindset tend to see it as a temporary (albeit unpleasant) emotion that they can cope with. Importantly, it’s not simply that people prone to experiencing more severe anxiety are those with fixed mindsets people with varying degrees of anxiety can have both fixed or growth mindsets.
Those who believe that anxiety can change, either on its own or through the use of coping skills, are more likely to respond adaptively to difficult situations, compared with those who believe that anxiety is more permanent. For instance, those who believe that anxiety can change are less likely to use unhelpful coping strategies, such as alcohol, self-injury or emotional avoidance when faced with difficult life events.
Instead, they’re more likely to sit with uncomfortable feelings and challenge their thinking in order to feel better. Individuals with a growth mindset towards anxiety have greater improvements in therapy than those who believe their anxiety is fixed.
With these anxiety attitudes in mind, we can examine what happens when people get stuck on something, like when you’re doing something new such as learning different software at work, or my ultrasound computer and Pac system, or assembling flat pack furniture. I realized that I don’t know how to do something easily, and that I must learn something new.
In fact, my interest in these moments of not knowing came from my own experience with writing. I love writing but my handicap was always the English language and grammar as English is my 3rd language.
I remind myself that it’s completely normal to feel anxious, discouraged and frustrated when encountering failures or when something is more difficult than expected. It’s what we do with those feelings that will dictate whether we take on challenges and end up successfully completing the task.
A lot of people who are anxious in moments of not knowing end up avoiding the task altogether, and this is true of anyone with problematic anxiety more broadly, that’s why I knew many sonographers and technologists who left their new jobs just few days after they got it, they left the clinics or medical centers because he or she refused to try to learn new routine, ultrasound machine, pac system and it is a great deal for them to change their comfort zone. They tend to avoid situations that make them anxious, so much so that it interferes with their ability to live their lives.
Avoidance is understandable: anxiety is unpleasant. It’s also consistent with the so-called principle of least effort, which applies to all living organisms: when given the choice, we will choose the path of least resistance. But avoidance is one of the worst things you can do, because it maintains anxiety in the long run.
This same principle can be applied during moments of not knowing. Persisting in these situations, despite feeling anxious, presents an opportunity to tolerate uncomfortable feelings, acknowledging that they won’t last forever. Continuing to work on the problem will also teach you that you can cope with feeling anxious, even though it feels unpleasant at the time.
Persistence can also help you unlearn any unhelpful thoughts you might have around your abilities and the consequences of getting things wrong. For example, you might have learnt somewhere along the way that needing to try hard or struggling with something new must mean that you’re stupid. Or you might have received the message that you have to be successful the first time you try something, or that mistakes should be avoided at all costs.
You might think that not knowing something means that you’ll be excluded from social relationships or are unworthy of being loved by others. All these thoughts can lead you to believe inaccurately that not knowing something is dangerous; this is what’s making you feel anxious.
That’s why you must avoid drama and negative people, you don’t have to be correct all the time, try to live and learn, have the attitude of learning new things and be humble and in time you will be in the spot of those who taught you.
The next time you experience a moment of not knowing, be curious about your feelings, asking questions such as: ‘Why am I feeling this way?’ and ‘What am I telling myself about this situation? Try to learn few things each time, write notes, and go home and study the manuals. Self-compassion can go a long way here as well – remind yourself that you’re not faulty, stupid or broken if you don’t understand things right away.
Avoidance can mean you miss out on much of life limiting your growing, learning and opportunities to experience so much on offer in the world. That’s why moving forward is not all fun and game but it come with a cost of the anxiety of learning new things , meeting new people and adopting to new situations.
But by persisting with the task at hand, you’ll gradually see that you can do more than you think, that you’re unhelpful thoughts aren’t true, and that the best way to reduce anxiety is to tackle the very thing you’ve been avoiding doing.
The longer you focus, persist, and stay on task while tolerating those uncomfortable feelings the more you’ll learn that these feelings don’t last forever but they do come down on their own, which will then start to change those beliefs. I just hope that you will have a great manager and director theta are ready to assist you to grow and learn and points the facts and not pointing fingers. Learning how to confront anxiety is a skill that takes practice, just like learning any new skill.