There are two kind of people in the world : those who change and those who dont.
We are programmed expressions of genetic blueprints, selected biological units with the natural selection process , designed by the master selector the creator himself. Designed to strive and survive. To change, adopt, and evolve.We are neurotic expression of our past and childhood. If we dont change we are not evolving .
It is difficult to change people until they want to change their selves. If the natural selection can change things in time , Human have the ability to choose to change or not and that will delay the process of evolution .
To change , there are so many ways and school of thoughts to fallow. Some of the important points are:
Develop positive thinking.
Exercise:. Yoga, meditation, Healthy food and regular sex with your partner.
Single-tasking. , step by step.
focus on one goal at a time. Eliminate the non-essential. Prioritize.
Apply Kindness to your life. Daily routine. And love what you do.
Do your best and don’t give up.
“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.” – Aristotle
If you could just pick one or two (or seven) habits to create in the next few months — habits that will have the most impact on your life — what would they be?
It’s not an easy to answer. There are so many changes you’ve gone through, from quitting smoking to simplifying your life to reducing debt , to lose weight , to change job, to move etc. And they’ve all seemed life-changing, and they’ve all seemed important.But if I were to start again, and had to pick one or two, it would be the one or two listed below.
“Men’s natures are alike; it is their habits that separate them.” – Confucius
How to Develop the Habits
Do a 30-day challenge, focusing on just ONE habit.
- Write it out on paper, along with your motivations, obstacles, and strategies for overcoming them.
- Commit fully, in a public way. Log your progress.
- Remain publicly accountable — report on your progress each day.
- Have support for when you falter — either in real life or online.
- Reward every little success.If you fail, figure out what went wrong, plan for it, and try again.
Focus on one bad habit at a time, and you’ll have a much easier time with any of the others. Start by becoming more aware of your negative self-talk — do a little tally sheet throughout the day, marking a tally each time you notice a negative thought. Soon you’ll recognize them, and you can squash them.
- Exercise makes you feel better about yourself, and more confident. That leads to better success with other positive changes.
- It reinforces the positive thinking habit — you need to think positive in order to sustain exercise. It relieves stress .
Single-tasking ; Why is it life-changing? A couple powerful reasons:
- You’ll be more effective with your tasks and get more done. It’s hard to achieve important things if you’re constantly switching tasks and distracted by other “urgent” things.
- You’ll be less stressed overall and (in my experience) happier throughout your day.
Focus on one goal. Just as focusing on one task at a time is more effective, and focusing on one habit at a time is more effect, so is focusing on one goal at a time. While it might seem very difficult, focusing on one goal at a time is the most powerful way of achieving your goals.
What if you have 5 goals you want to achieve? Pick one to focus on first. Break it into a mini-goal you can accomplish this month, if it’s a longer-term goal. Pick an action you can do today. Keep doing this until the goal is accomplished — do an action every day, finish the mini-goal, pick the next mini-goal to work on. Then, when your One Goal is completed, focus on the next goal.
Eliminate the non-essential. First, Identify the essential — the things in your life that are most important to you, that you love the most. Then eliminate everything else. This simplifies things and leaves you with the space to focus on the essential.
Kindness. Yes, kindness is a habit. And it can be cultivated. Focus on it every day for a month and you’ll see profound changes in your life. You’ll feel better about yourself as a person. You’ll see people react to you differently and treat you better, over the long run. It’s karma.
How do you develop the kindness habit? First, make it a goal to do something kind for someone each day. At the beginning of the day, figure out what that kind act will be and then do it during the day. Second, each time you interact with someone, try to be kind, be friendly, be compassionate. Third, try to go beyond small kindnesses to larger acts of compassion, teach a student ,be a guide to someone who need your help etc.
Daily routine. It’s so simple, but creating a daily routine for yourself can make a big difference in your life. The best routines, I’ve found, come at the start and end of the day — both your workday and your day in general. That means, develop a routine for when you awake, for when you first start working, for when you finish your workday, and for the end of your evening.
decrease your stress level to change , appreciation and praise generously.
You must stay calm, listen , understand, be positive about the issue, get the facts , use tactics, attack the problem no the person, avoid the blaming game, focus on the future not the past, ask the right question, pick your battle and time, don’t scream, make an eye contact, link offers and share the idea how to fix and how to stop it from happening again, be creative and celebrate agreement be friendly
Thank you for reading.
Steve Ramsey, PhD.
Calgary, Alberta- Canada.