You will never be good enough if you keep comparing yourself to other people. The story of your life has many chapters. One bad chapter doesn’t mean it’s the end. One failure does not define your ability.Don’t ever be ashamed of the scars that’s life has left you with. A scar means the hurt is over and the wound is closed. It means you conquered the pain, learned a lesson, grew stronger, and moved forward. A scar is a solid fiber that healed the soft weak tissue that was injured in the course of learning.

Most of the time you cannot control everything that happens to you; you can only control the way you respond to what happens. Choose to be peaceful and you’ll find plenty of reasons to be at peace. Choose to be stressful and you will find stress following you like a shadow.

 It is absolutely nothing about your present situation that prevents you from moving forward, one tiny step at a time. Remember, vision without action is just a daydream; vision must be combined with action to creates the reaction of life and the ripple effect of results.

 Telling yourself what a failure you are in love, work, education, moneymaking, won’t make you any more successful. Telling yourself you’re not living up to your full potential won’t help you reach a higher potential. Telling yourself you’re worthless and unlovable won’t make you feel any more worthy or lovable. You have got to change your negative thinking of your ability and start writing the positive chapters of your life. Pain is part of growing. Remember that there are two kinds of pain: pain that hurts and pain that changes you

 When I was 6 years old in grade one, my teacher asked me to call my parents and he told them that I am not good enough for that school as my spelling sucks and I was always daydreaming. My parents didn’t know what to say and offered to teach me spelling and work with me on my schoolwork.

I asked the teacher and said, you told my parents what was my problem but you didn’t offer any solution to help. The reason I am daydreaming is that the way you teaching us sucks, I said that in my language of course and he didn’t like it.

I accepted the facts that I will never be good enough for that teacher, but I tried hard and worked hard to improve myself and didn’t listen to anyone that tells me that I am not good enough. Not friends, not my teachers, and not any family members.

I kept going, moving forward, improving myself and learn more and more as I go. I stumbled on the way but I kept moving and improving. I had to start thinking of myself and respect myself no matter how poor and misfortunate I was.

You can’t receive self-respect and love from anyone else. Earn the respect of others by having the ability and capacity to respect yourself. Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful. No regrets, just lessons. No worries, just acceptance. No expectations, just gratitude. Others might reject you and exclude you for so many reasons don’t let their action destroyed your feeling toward the society at large and don’t let them take your self-respect.

 My fixation was always to make my parents, friends, teachers, managers happy with me, and I was trying to get their approval.  But I wasn’t good enough for any of them because they always compare me to someone else, always wants more, always jealous and envy of any achievements that I had and downplay the importance of any improvements I did.

No matter what I did they always find a fault, weakness, mistake, or negative issue without offering any solution to improve it. But I forgot that I should have my own self-approval, like myself first and be good enough to myself first, and let it reflect on my personality so others can appreciate me of what I am and what I can do,  and if they don’t that’s their problem

Some parents and those who love you, they’ll say how proud they are. They’ll say how, in their eyes, you’re already successful. You’re already perfect.But you won’t believe it because they’re family. They’re programmed to love you, so you start looking for approval outside your nutshell.

Of course, we have dreams and we are trying hard to achieve them,  but for so many reasons we couldn’t reach them and we starting comparing our self to others.

I used to ask why I am not like such and such who was in my class and he became a doctor and another friend who became so rich? I was trying to understand each situation and what should I have done differently to improve my situation, like reading more, memorizing more, and work on my skills more.Then the other side of my brain started giving me the reason why I couldn’t because I have to work two jobs after school to help my mother put food on the table (make that small wooden carpet on the floor) because we couldn’t afford a dining table at that time.

Reading was hard as we didn’t have lights in our poor dark place in Baghdad city, I used to study under a lantern.I had to daydreams of things I want to do. I never thought that one day I will learn other 4 languages even though with a broken accent and still suck in spelling, but at least I managed to get my BSc, my Master degree, and my Ph.D.  I was trying to prove to myself and to those who didn’t think I was good enough that I can do it.

I lost time and lost many good friends who want me to enjoy this short life and those who told me that we must accept our lot in life and keep our balance between work, education, travel and helping our families. I had to break free from our culture, homeland, family ties, and travel far, leave them behind and test my strength. But God always was close to my heart; he was and still is my parents, my best friend, and my counselor.

Those good friends told me that I shouldn’t keep thinking that I’ve fallen behind in life and that this life needs all the people with different skills to make it work.I saw my friends are already within grasp of their wildest dreams. Everyone else is ahead of me in every aspect of life. WHY ?

My brain is screaming why I’m not good enough.

But maybe that mindset isn’t such a bad thing. Maybe it’s okay to be convinced you need to work harder, to be better, so you can catch up to them. But be aware of time.Don’t forget to stop and enjoy the surrounding that’s called life, and don’t forget God is watching and listening and he is a prayer away from you. Don’t let the material life drift you far away from God because then you will be truly lost.

I found that I will never be good enough because there’s always room for improvement in my life and even if I reach my goal I have to think how can I make improvements in my family lives friends and coworkers lives, and those whom I love around me, and in my community.

No matter what you do you will never be good enough, because you are driven to a high standard, and you want to reach the top to get great things in life. We are programmed to survive, to live, to be strong, to be healthy and to gather things in our cave of fortune and show others that we have got what it takes to be a good hunter of fortune and good gatherer no matter how harsh and dangerous the outside world is. When you are a cave man you have no choice but to learn new skills to improve your surviving chance and those who depend on you.

 It’s amazing what you can do when you have no other choice. In fact, success consists mostly of giving you no other choice. You are more than good enough; you just have to own it. Sometimes we do give up and stop to reassess ourselves, and correct our directions, take breaths and enjoy life without big dreams. But deep in our hearts and though we know that we will go again at full speed, because what’s the point in living once you’ve become enough? What do you have left to do?

That’s why if you direct your attention to word the creator, God who is in control, and ask him for direction and guidance, ask him to take you to the destination he sees fit for you. Because no matter what you do you always end up in the rat race world working hard and feeling you are not good enough. But with God, you are somebody.  God will satisfy you and your needs; his name brings peace to your heart, and let you see the world differently with full satisfaction.

More your run toward God, the more he will be closer to your heart. And the more your run toward earthly materials the more it runs away from you, and the more you need to catch up with it in the need and greed circle of life.

Good and bad Experiences are the hardest kind of teacher; it gives you the test first and the lesson afterward. But this is really a blessing. It means you’re growing stronger and more capable with every passing day. Rather than worrying about what might happen, move forward and use your energy and intelligence to deal with what does actually happen. You are good enough if you learn to adapt to the change, and be smart and efficient of using your skills and plant the seeds now so later you can say to yourself that I tried, I planted the seed of efforts and now I harvest the goodness of my hard smart work. Your life is about breaking your own limits

If you are not reaching your dreams, don’t beat yourself up over it. Be thankful that you still have something to work for, something to live for, and something to dream for as I had my daydreams. Maybe you should change your tactics, share your ideas and expand your circle to include others in your plan. Maybe you should adapt to the new change even if that’s mean to take a step back in position or salary level. Life isn’t fair at all.

 Remember that Life without dreams, life with the idea that’s you have reached your goal is a boring life; it will make you feel lost, standstill. But if you put your life with the hands of God it will never be an empty life as you will be in peace and any boring moments with the lord and the Holy Spirit who dwells in your heart. So let God be part of your life and plans.

You are never going to be good enough. Let this sentence motivate you not depressed you. Let it remind you that there’s always going to be something new on your to-do list. That’s you are here as a part of this intelligently designed life, you are part of the puzzle, and you are here to choose your path in a balanced way aiming high, to come closer and closer to the great designer of this universe, and one day you will be done, finished and become good enough in the everlasting Kingdome .And that you will be judged by how good you were to others.How good you were in accepting God words and not how good you were to your material life and greed.

It’s up to you how you visualize things and what you focus on. Forget what you don’t like. Focus on what excites you. If you see a possibility, explore it. If you have a dream, live it. Step by step can lead you to the top but it will take time.But if you smart enough you can take the elevator of life and that will lead you to the top faster than the stairs.This elevator I called connections, whom you know, helpers, peers, and building your new skills and add to that pinch of luck. Remember when you use this elevator to do with little nose browning as possible.

Those who are passionate and excited about what they’re doing have an advantage in going to the top by this elevator. So work in obtaining new skills that people in top needs. When you are willing and committed and persistent, you will get yourself there, to the top while your peers still using the stairs. 

Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural outcome of consistently applying your focused effort to what you want. You can just dream of it and think of it, you have to plan and act, you have to work on your skills and education, on your experience and connections, on your energy and ambitions, on your goal and efforts. The more positive effort you put into your action the more positive reaction you get.

Thank you for reading, and remember that nothing in this life is a coincidence.And that God is enough.

Steve Ramsey. Calgary – Alberta- Canada.