Can we Change & be more positive?

Can we learn a positive lesson from every negative person in your life?  Yes we can if we are careful not to follow their footsteps and tactics, it is also possible that we can learn a lesson from them, and accepting the world for what it is and finding refuge in self improvement.

The holy books of Abrahamic faith (JUDIA,and Islam ) from both Ishmael and Isaac sons, ,they teach you and guide you to trust in one God and work in peace ,begin the morning with worship and prayers and depend on God alone.

You will meet many arrogant people, the ungrateful, the liars and despiteful, envious, the jealous people, the greedy, and those who are full with the seven deadly sins. You will meet them and work with them those bullies and those who cover the sun with their clouds of darkened personalities. You have to tell yourself that all these things happened to those evil people by reason of their ignorance. Just the devil who was one of the best entity of light that God had create , then he fall from God Grace due to his arrogance, pride and ignorance to God command .

God will never change you until you decide to change yourself and ask GOD TO STRENGTHEN YOU AND GUIDE YOU, then he can change you and the community with you if the decides to do the same. You must work on your self- nature to change and be positive by following the steps of been comfortable with yourself and show respect, kindness and compassion to other human been.

Zayed bin Sultan Al Nahyan the late ruler of UAE, once said that’s “the country is from the people to the people , and to built a nation based on hormone , peace and compassion, the ability of cooperation  with each other “God bless his soul he knew that the land without agriculture produce no civilization and that this land will be not successful if you don’t invest on its people , and progress will be impossible if there is no peace.

It is healthy to compete and be successful to trade and invest as God want to see his blessing shown on his people. We must take some time to reflect on what happened around us, what Covid virus is dong to the fabric of our society and our relationships. Learn from the negative lessons from each of these relationships with your friends and family members and try to learn and ask yourself why? And what can I do to change that and how? Try to learn from those feelings, how to correct them and find the reason behind them.

We all born in a natural state of balance, harmony and goodness,but then parents, relatives, friends and the society around us starting to brainwash us and feed us superstitious and old tail stories that away from the holy books and just a stories from their cultural believe and not what God teach us .They started to teach us the culture of hate and war if they live in one , or culture of greed and money is the number one factor if their life was based on that.

If there is no balance in my opinion there will be no good progress civilization. If the society we creates based on greed, money, and l temptation to gain more and more it will lead to destruction sooner or later as that can bring with it envy and jealousy from others and riots, and destruction will follow . If we do not apply kindness and respect, help others to bring them to the balance state with good leadership they will fall behind and later they will haunt us with their destructive force of hate.

Some people can teach you kindness and mercy, some can teach you leadership and just, some can teach you strength and how to be hopeful, some can teach you modesty and help you to understand the value of been balanced person, love the truth and justice and avoid oppression of others.

I went thru alot in Iraq since I was born from Lebanon to Baghdad and seen my father torture in the political prison , seen wars and hates first hand , seen my house burned and my brother killed and the destruction of my country .

It created so much hate in my heart against the Shia and Iran, against the terrorists and other corrupt thieves and thugs. It affected my life as hate started to consume me, you can see it in my face when I see one of those evil people. I started have all these thoughts against them.

It is easy in life to become transfixed on how we have been wronged and how we was hurt and tortured and hoe we were neglected by the leaders and those thugs .Now I think what good does it bring me to keep hate in my heart, sure it give me some satisfaction, and I wish that the U.S will destroy Iran once after all.

What good does bring me I ask myself? To hold these negative feeling against those bullies, I know justice must prevail but I can’t change the past. Does it resolve anything I ask myself? Maybe, if we get rid of those evil countries that support terrorists the rest of humanity can be at ease and balance.

I am working on removing these negative thoughts so I can survive as a balanced human been and remove these negative feeling that makes me miserable when I see the world of chaos around me from Iran and hezbollah terrorism, to those communist who let the Covid virus spread father in this earth due to their stupidity and negligent .

 Every time I start to heal myself and learn self improvement of getting rid of negative feeling, some new evil come along in this earth and ruin it for me like the Covid virus who make hate every single Communist in this earth, as it destroy my life balance with laid off and losing job, it seem an endless Mary go round. The evil always start the trouble and he never sleep, he love chaos and that is what I call covid, the CHAOS VIRUS. 

This evil Virus almost destroyed the U.S, it destroyed the world economy and family connections, destroyed marriages and family value, destroyed businesses. It is very hard to learn the techniques of been calm an unaffected by the hardship around us. I always go to bed and think how I am going to pay my mortgage /rent if my hours at work reduced? How can I sustain a good modest living without a good job? And that start affecting my sleep patrons and dreams.

One of the learning steps I do is to thank God for the blessing he gave me, counting my blessing and focus on the good things and see how others got worse situation, died, lost their families and jobs . Thank God for the good family and friends, as they provide us with emotional support and encouragements.

 It is a life lesson, I always used to get so bitter over things that I lost like my parents who died because of Iraqi aggressions, or for the loss of my brother in the hand of the evil Iranians, or the destruction of our house that burned to the ground by the Iraqi militia .

 I cried loud to God and scream WHY. Why my family and why he did this to us , why he took my parent away, why he took my beautiful cat Smokey away , why he created death ? Of course I wasn’t mad at God, I just did not want to accept the fact that all life and death belong to him, he granted and can take it any time, and that to test our faith, and to teach us that this life don’t last forever.

I get bitter for the lost of my job due to Covid and the reduction of my hours and income, I get bitter because I didn’t and still don’t accept the lost and don’t accept the fact that nothing in life cal last forever. This virus taught me a lot and still does.

I know life is temporarily and don’t last forever, but it doesn’t have to be full with hardship .I know that joy and desire will never last ,and I know that I should live a life with less hate , less anger, and take life less seriously and learn from each process , and that I have to accept change as it part of life. As Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum  the ruler of Dubai and vice-president of the United Arab Emirates said “Change or you will be changed “life must go on with or without you as the aim and goal is the common good of all community to live in peace and harmony.

Change is part of life and the nature of the world goes hand in hand with change. We will never succeed if we resist the change and if we do we will fall behind and stay in our primitive life. If we fight the change we always be unhappy, unsatisfied, and as they say life start at the end of your comfort zone.

We can change what is within our own power as we can fight the force of nature, everything will die and that only God will stand alone at the end. I cried for my parents, my house, my country and the lost of my cat because I love them, I don’t want to lose them so soon, and didn’t understand the wisdom behind it and I shit myself from God grace and mercy .

Now all I have to do is to accept what God gave and took, the destiny of life and death, to forget and forgive, to let go and keep moving. It is not that easy but we must start somehow.

Once I used to have a very nice modest theatre play in Baghdad, the government took it away and closed me down. They stole my art collection of pain and calligraphy as they did before to my father and his arts. I learn to let go and move on, without the inner hate or external control of desires, resentments, and greed.

We must understand the nature of the world, and learn to live in a society, among different people, and to face the daily encounters and trials that life naturally brings.

We must understand that today won’t last, and the significance of our trials in the chaotic world around us is like a grain of sand in the infinite expanse of time.

Our short time on this earth will always be rollercoaster with ups and down. Our life will be full of those negative people and annoyance individuals who always point fingers and not the facts if we allow ourselves to be annoyed by them.

 Don’t try to change them, show them how to become kind and show them good leadership because you cannot change them by force, they must do it at their own term and paste. They are people like us and they do make mistake, some got the justice they deserve and some are waiting for it.

I remember King KONG the big Gorilla who was in isolated island away from the human greed and lust for power and money, he fall in love with beautiful human been he loved her because she was kind and fun , made him happy and gave him the feeling of been loved .

So he defended her while the human greed was after him to make money and make fun of him. When the human who didn’t understand the love between the beauty and the beast they killed him while he was defending the beautiful lady.

Even an ape knows that the value of living is in love, family and to be in peace with yourself and others, to protect those who you love. Isolation might create a breed of evil doers but also can bring a change if we reach out to those who are different and bring them to the mainstream.

 Ask yourself where the Roman Empire, Magnolia Empire, and the Persian Empire are? Those were the evil empires who once ruled the earth with their evil forces. Where are the pharos, Napoleon, Stalin, Hitler, and all other evil in this earth? They are all gone, leaving their bad memories in the history books. So to be in the book of life we must change for good.

Thank you for reading

Steve Ramsey, PhD. Calgary- Alberta.