The follower run after Jesus and said: Oh Lord the great servant of God! Why you left ? The wicked man insulted me and you just sat there doing nothing. Then when I responded to some of his accusation and insulted him back, you became angry and walked away.” Jesus said: “There was an angel with you who was responding to his insults on your behalf.”

Jesus told the follower to (keep in mind) three things which are always true, one of which is that whenever a person is subjected to an injustice but leaves the matter to God, then God will come to his aid and send an angel to defend him.

It is not a weakness to remain silent.

I know some times silence can be the devil tools if you silence yourself from protecting others, or if you kept silent from the truth . It is your duty to tell the truth and make sure to safe life’s and see that nobody get hurt from your silence . Otherwise don’t fight evil with evil to get even for sake of revenge and don’t lower yourself to the level of those wicked people who points fingers at you , because if they point one finger at you they are pointing 3 fingers back toward themselves.

It takes real strength to be calm and silent and pray to God to protect you. What others say will only hurt you if you let it. Construct within yourself , and try to turn other people’s insults into something constructive and positive that you can use for your own betterment and the betterment of others. It is hard pills to swallow ,it is hard to keep your anger at bay. The feeling of revenge is so great but it is greater when God do it for you.

There are a lot of well-known stories about people who kept quiet in the face of accusations and insults in so many cultures from India to China, from Muslims to Jewish , from the Christians to the atheist individuals.

 

One of these stories pertains to the celebrated Japanese philosopher Hakuin Ekaku. His neighbor’s teenage daughter fell pregnant, and when her enraged parents confronted her about it, she said that Hakuin was the father. News of the shameful deed spread far and wide, even overseas, and the philosophers’ reputation was ruined. However, it did not trouble him in the least, though people stopped coming to see him.

When the baby was born, they brought it to him and said: “You are its father, so you have to look after it.” He took the child and cared for it. A year later, wracked by feelings of guilt, the girl admitted that the real father was the young man who worked at the shop.
The girl’s parents went back to the philosopher full of apologies. They said: “We have come to take back the baby.” He returned the child to them without saying a word.

When someone criticizes you, insults you, or calls you names, do not respond. Do not try to defend yourself only if you defend your life of course. You can call the police or sue the person after collecting the evidence and make it worse for both of you. But Try to be calm and allow yourself to think about the reason.

See the positive effect that this has on you. As God said to Virgin Mary when she gave birth to Jesus: “And if you see any person, say: ! I have vowed a fast unto the Beneficent, and I may not speak this day to any mortal.” (Quran, 19:26) and also in some versus in the bible, some people start pointing fingers to Mary and calling her name and shaming her and her family for adultery . Jesus spoke to her from inside her womb “ Mother be patient , don’t let them get you angry, God is your watching over us”.

For a few moments, let yourself feel that your stature has diminished. Then you will feel as if something mighty inside you has woken up and you will know that you have not diminished in the least.

I have many times found myself the brunt of people’s abuses from jealousy, envy. Rivalry, or just from pure hate and discrimination, bigotry and predigest, or from those who are so lazy to their jobs, and they ask you to help them rudely ,and expecting that you should help do their jobs without recognizing their fault of been late ,or finding way to correct their sick behavior of calling sick all the time, and coming late to work all the time.

Sometimes I burst and most of the time I allow the team sense of duty to take over. We are human and we can’t be perfect all the time.
Sometimes the arrows that were aimed at me were friendly fire. I found nothing more consoling in such situations than keeping quiet and saying to myself: God is sufficient for me, and He is the best one for me to trust my affairs.

It is not good for you to get angry and confront the problem without studying the facts, when the sides are unclear, and when those who are ignorant are mixed in with those who have knowledge.

When tempers settle down, that is the time to comment on the situation and address the issue in hand and find a solution.
Speaking when tensions are high and issues are unclear can simply confuse matters further. You might say things you do not mean and that you cannot easily retract. You are more likely to have your worlds misunderstood even if they are true.

 

you are more likely to alienate and drive away the very people whom you are trying to convince.

Also keep in mind that silence can sometimes be egotistical.
This is something we need to be aware of. It can become an expression of arrogance for others. Silence is a form of expression, and can be used for better or for worse, so try to use it only to further goodness and truth.

Thank you for reading. Be kind to each other.Happy Valentine to all of you.

Steve Ramsey, PhD.

Calgary, Alberta- Canada.